Borrowed from here, an end of the year exercise in contemplation!
1. What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before?
In March, stayed in Canada while my parents moved to Cambodia to serve with CRWRC. In the past, I was one of the ones going with to serve. And a good friend moved to Manitoba.
In April, receiving an award for my volunteer work and on the same day learning my mother-in-law committed suicide.
Going for several months as a biking family because financial circumstances meant we didn’t have a really good working vehicle.
Something major happened in July but its not blogging material.
In August, first having my bicycle stolen and four days later having our new to us (and given as a gift) vehicle stolen.
In September, going back to university.
In December, [edited to as per request] had series of frustrating e-mails which really marred the season for us.
And, having our first just our family Christmas ever. We’ve never celebrated Christmas with just the four of us!
I’m ready to be done with this year!
2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
Yes I did and yes I will.
3. Did anyone close to you give birth or get pregnant?
Yes, my SIL got pregnant (husband’s sister), a good friend got pregnant and had a baby boy, and so did someone else I love but that child has gone to dance with Jesus.
4. Did anyone close to you get married?
nope
5. Did anyone close to you die?
yes
6. Travel?
just all around southern Ontario, that counts, right?
7. Did you move anywhere?
at times closer to insanity but for the most part… Stayed at home and moved furniture to make it feel like I was moving.
8. What was the best month?
I just don’t know… maybe November because I was going to say early in the year but in January and February I was having to deal with my mother constantly coming over and dropping off stuff from their house that she wasn’t going to need plus watching my friend pack up to leave.
At the least, there wasn’t any drama in November and I finally managed to start to get some semblance of control back into my house and life!
9. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009?
A bathroom that doesn’t grow mushrooms once a week and in which I don’t suspect that the blue colouring under the top layer of the linoleum is not black mold.
10. What date(s) from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?
Too many
11. What was your biggest achievement of the year?
Rocking my first University course in over 10 years.
12. What was your biggest failure?
Need you ask? At this point I don’t think about my failures and just focus on trying to get through the days!
13. Did you suffer illness or injury?
Nothing out of the standard.
14. What was the best thing you bought?
I’m very time limited when it comes to something like this so I’m going to say my pot rack that I bought from Ikea yesterday. I love how it looks and holds the new pan set that someone gifted me.
15. Whose behavior merited celebration?
My kids. Seriously. They went through hell this year and they still laugh, trust, and love.
16. Whose behavior made you appalled and/or depressed?
I could say but you can guess.
17. Where did most of your money go?
Mortgage, Groceries and paying off Debt.
18. What did you get really, really, really excited about?
My friends
19. What song will always remind you of 2009?
I don’t listen to the radio, except Vinyl Cafe via podcast. I have no anthem for this year.
20. Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder? sadder in that I miss more, but happier in that I am thankful for how my husband and I have grown together, how wonderful my children can be, and how blessed I am to have what I do have.
ii. richer or poorer? richer in that I value what I have more, poorer if you were an outsider looking in because of the things we had to sell/give up and the condition of our home.
21. What do you wish you’d done more of?
alone time
22. What do you wish you’d done less of?
grieving
23. How will you be spending New Year’s Eve/Day?
New Year’s Eve with my hubby and friends. New Year’s day with my father’s family as my husband has to work a 12 starting at 8 a.m.
24. What was an unexpected surprise?
My mother-in-law’s suicide
25. Did you fall in love in 2009?
yes and no
26. What was the best concert you’ve been to this year?
I didn’t go to one.
27. What was your favorite TV program?
The Mentalist
28. Do you dislike anyone now that you didn’t dislike this time last year?
Yes
29. What was the best book you read?
I read loads but none that I thought were the best ever. I did enjoy the Artemis Fowl series.
30. What was your greatest musical discovery?
That my kids are good at playing the recorder (yes, I listen with a mother’s love!)
31. What did you want and get?
yarn and wool and I bought it myself 
32. What did you want and not get?
peace, quiet and no more fighting
33. What was your favorite film of this year?
The Proposal, because I need silly fun
34. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
I turned 33 and don’t remember it at all.
35. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying?
This is a well duh kind of question.
36. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009?
Well, it fits and I have it so I’ll wear it. Yay! Its clean and folded too!
37. What kept you sane?
Knitting and Crocheting
38. What political issue stirred you the most?
Grass-roots activism
39. Who did you miss?
My parents and my MIL
40. Random Memories from 2009?
Biking everywhere with my kids and singing while we biked, very much like the scene in the Sound of Music.
Doing school work with the kids and all the revelations they made.
Going to the drive-in with my friend and at other times with my SIL.
Moving our bedroom with #2’s.
Tree decorating party with C-s, K-a, K-e, J-a, and E-c.
I’m still here… its 11 days till the end of my one course and I’ve got course-work out the wazoo…
And it really doesn’t help to be studying the brain at its neurological level and realize exactly how many ways it is that I’m struggling with this school thing!
First, I pulled my blog off Facebook as I’m not opposed to my friends and family reading my blog but, have in my mind, a kind of distinction between information appropriate for Facebook and that more appropriate for the blog.
I also found that having the blog linked there I was really feeling constrained as to what I’d write. It is one thing if my Aunt intentions to read my blog material by coming to the blog or subscribing to its feed, but its quite another when every Aunt reads my blog, lol! Even accepting that this is just as much public as that!
So, life has been rough. Given the events of the first half of the year and how, quite often, they feel as if they were decades ago and in another life time I often find myself quite impatient with myself when I hit a melancholy streak. Currently I’m in a melancholy streak and constantly think I should be ‘over this already!.’
I have found that in order to just be able to maintain a low acceptable level of life-coping, I’ve had to pull back from a large number of activities that I used to be able to do with ease and joy. These days I do find that I am often lacking in joy, especially when I know that Christmas is just around the corner.
Growing up this was my most favourite time of the year. Having children I know how much they look forward to this time of year and their excitement and level of anticipation makes it doubly hard to figure out in my mind how we are going to weather these next few weeks.
I’ve been trying hard to support my husband in these past months. He often feels quite stuck between two mountains as his siblings and his father have quite a gulf between them. Part of me thinks he is using their angst and anger toward each other and his self-appointed role as the peacemaker as a way of avoiding talking about his mother’s suicide. Its especially hard because I’ve been the brunt of some brutal conversations from various people in this ’situation.’
There is the fact that our bathroom now grows mushrooms. We wish they were the kind you could sell for a good profit because then we’d likely be able to do a renovation sooner than later, but for now we’re learning to live harmoniously with our ’special’ bathroom.
I’ve also been trying hard to do my studying but now strongly feel that I was quite foolish in agreeing to this undertaking. I’m not giving up but boy would I really like to at this point!
And while all of this leaves me feeling very taunt and at times ready to snap, there are continually the little graces that seem to carry me through. Like the fact that, for the first time that I can recall, I’m doing laundry from sort, to wash, to dry, to fold, and into the cupboards weekly. I’m making my bed daily (because it does look really pretty). The daughter and hubby and I switched our rooms and the resulting shifting of furniture house-wide has made our house fit us much better.
There are the ways my kids are growing up and doing so well, despite my best efforts! They are doing quite well in their school work and, for me, home-schooling is such a blessing!
Then there are the cuddles from Kibbles and Nick, nothing like a little fur critter crawling onto your lap when you’re a wee bit chilled!
Anyhow there are a million things I should be doing. The husband and kids are at a Storm game for which we were gifted the tickets and I’ve been listening to the appliances in my quite silent home. Its been quite the cathartic evening…
Regrouping! Because teaching math is much more fun than doing math…
Adding numbers of different lengths!
My daughter has decided that she wants to teach her math instead…
I’m in the middle of moving furniture. School goes on anyways. I’ll be back to my ‘feature’ later on, but thought I’d share a sampling of my 8 year old daughter’s penmanship of the day. She didn’t know I was going to post it up, so this isn’t ‘her best work’ and she’s not the most impressed with me, lol!
And here you can see that it is very important to practice safety while doing your school work:
A while ago someone posted a link to this youtube on Facebook. Since then, I’ve listened to many, many clips from this group Perpetuum Jazzile and I simply love their work. True, much of it is in another language and I’ve tried hard to make sure that I’m not listening to really ‘bad’ stuff but so far haven’t found that its much worse than what is playing on the airwaves here, if anything, its better!
Anyhow, what I want for Christmas is their latest CD, Africa. That… that would make me really happy, lol!
[and as #2 added to her list, I'd also be happy with a kiss from each of my kids and my husband. Because, as she said, "Its free Mommy, and the free stuff is the best!"]
Most often, yes.
Now that is deliberately vague because this is something that you have to research for your district and province/state and country.
Homeschooling is not universally accepted and in some countries, for example some of the European countries, homeschoolers are actually jailed for teaching things not sanctioned by the state. There have been examples of children being removed from their parents because the parents were teaching their children ‘things’.
Ontario’s Law:
Section 21 (2) of the Ontario Education Act states that a child of school age is excused from compulsory attendance in a public school if the child is receiving satisfactory instruction “at home or elsewhere.”
Now there are a lot of questions and thoughts about this and there is an excellent link here that does a very good job outlining these questions and answers. No need to rewrite them all here.
Some personal questions I ask about public schools:
1. What is the purpose of public education? Is it to ensure that every child has equal opportunities to receive an education?
Do I endorse the reason for public education? Can I achieve the same goals in an other method (private school, tutoring, homeschooling)?
2. What are the goals of public education specific to my child? More specifically, what is the education that my child will receive via this method of education?
What *are* they teaching my child? Is it reading, writing and ‘rithmetic? Or is there a whole lot more? Are they really teaching the 3 R’s? How well are the ‘majority’ of the students achieving the goals?
3. How are they teaching my child?
for example: lecture, drills, worksheets, hands-on-experience, group work, classroom, textbooks …
4. What is the philosophy that influences the education my child receives and do I subscribe to these core philosophies myself?
As a Christian, I have an issue with many subjects taught in the public school system. Ask yourself, do you believe what is being taught by the school, if you don’t are you explaining this to your child?
Canadian Homeschooling Information
Wikipedia on Homeschooling in the USA
HSLDA on Homeschooling in the USA
More legal questions on Homeschooling in general can be researched on the Home School Legal Defense Association
I’ve decided to pull together a series of links and make some comments about homeschooling and the ‘Big Questions’ in one place so that I can find them in one place. This is by no means an exhaustive list and is much more the tip of the iceberg that I found today and potentially a net-search several days down the road could lead down a very different bunny trail! Each post will deal with a topic and then I’ll link them to a blog page/tab at the top.
The Question of Socialization:
This is likely the biggest question that is asked of me. Its one of those things that once you start homeschooling you quickly realize is the least of your worries.
One of the biggest comments that I can make on this is that the “what about socialization” question isn’t really a question about “is your child able to be social” but a series of other questions:
“Will your child fit in with other children the same age?”
Truthfully, I never really fit in as a child myself. Did you? I’m not joking here or trying to be flip.
Also, ask yourself, do you want your child to be just like every other child? Or were you hoping to raise a unique individual that lives up to their maximum potential? Is the method of schooling going to be what determines the outcome on this question?
Will the child be socially awkward?
At a Homeschool support meeting and the speaker mentioned how someone told him that he could tell that those children were homeschooled because they were quiet and shy.
I had to laugh because I often get told that you can tell my children are homeschooled because they are gregarious and outgoing and stop and talk to anyone and everyone.
My point here is that homeschooling will not enhance or detract from your child’s personality. Your child is or isn’t shy. They are or aren’t an extrovert.
Generally speaking, extroverts do great in a school setting and introverts don’t.
Homeschooling does offer the potential for you as the parent to help the child understand and appreciate the great qualities of their own personalities.
The bottom line, in my opinion, is that it is a big assumption to state that school at home or away is going to actually determine your child’s personality. Either way, which ever method of schooling you choose, your child will be influenced. Away, more influence by peers and persons that may or may not share your personal values and love of this child. At home, well… you’ll have the greatest influence and will likely be around to help them cope in situations when they deal with peers and other persons.
Will the child have friends?
Short answer, yes. Short of locking your child up for the rest of their lives. People are social creatures.
The key difference is that a homeschooled child is just as likely to make friends with the older neighbour next door, the mail delivery person, the guy at the grocery store *as well as* other children the same age.
This is again personal opinion, but I find it more accurate to how I live life as an adult. It is very rare for me to be with the same group of people day after day that are the same age as me.
Still this is a very valid concern and most area’s have great homeschool networks where families can meet and connect.
What about all the school stuff and memories?
This is what I find is the core question. Yes, homeschooling does mean that they won’t have a lot of the same kinds of school memories that you experienced. Both the good memories and the bad memories. You know what I mean.
That being said, they will have a lot of school-like memories. For example field trips. The same homeschool networks I mentioned earlier are often places where parents get together to organize field trips. The wealth and variety of experiences are, if anything, greater for homeschoolers as we aren’t tied to just curriculum and can pick and choose to our hearts content or, if we don’t like what’s available go and organize one to our choosing!
If anything, I often have to remind myself that we don’t *have* to go on all of the 27 field trips available to me this month!
How about yearbooks and pictures? Well, definitely not like you had in school, but I take my kids pictures frequently and they scrapbook them into memory books themselves. It is different.
What about birthday parties, sleepovers and all the fun stuff? Still happens. How cool is it when you *can* have a sleepover on a school night and stay up late! lol… Just kidding but seriously not related to school.
Bully? Well, my kids say I’m a bully sometimes…
And so on. Basically all the good stuff you remember from school is not exactly related to education and something you can make sure your child will experience.
Can you kind of see why I say that for homeschoolers the question of socialization becomes something that sometimes causes us to want to groan when asked about it?
Here are some links that I found that I think do an excellent job exploring this issue *and* provide facts and numbers and such! [note to HS-ing readers, if you know of better articles, link them in your comments. I'll have to approve them first, but will let them be posted to this blog post]
Social Skills and Homeschooling
Socialization of Homeschooled Children
Big article, scroll down to Socialization of Children
Socialization, How to deal with it [other HS-ing parents responses]
CBN news article, Christian comments on HS-ing and socialization
